An end to an eventful year

Just a quick and short update on the last day of 2011. It just dawned on me it is the last day of the year and everybody is celebrating new year's eve tonight and I don't even have any plan for tonight. Anyway time flies so fast in a blink of an eye we are entering a new year. 2011 has been an eventful year for me. More good than bad Alhamdulliah.

2011 to me ;

• A working lady
•  Wedding preparations
• A great hens party
• I got married to the love of my life
• Went for our first vacation together ever in 7 years. Honeymoon in bali ( pictures still not posted)
• Learned that I got myself knocked up 2 months later ( before that secretly bought and test so many pregnancy tests with negative results)
• Took unpaid leave. Had the most unpleasant 2 months of morning-till-night 24/7 sickness. Never have I vomit so much in my life.
• The most thinnest i've ever been. Nobody would have guess I'm pregnant ( a fact that i'm a bit sad when taking LRT. Nobody offer me a seat ;p and also the fact that guys still lingers with their wandering eyes looking at me when they are supposed to notice that i'm a mom-to-be. Tak suka rasa macam anak dara kene ngorat lagi. Ok saya perasan ;p)
• And now started working again after a long break.

What am looking forward to in 2012 and what am expecting:

• To finally see my little munchkin. Hopefully the Dr will be able to confirm the sex next month. I wanna buy baby stuff soon please.
• To be able to finally decide what's the next course in my life. Continue study?
• To be more frugal in spending. This is definitely a must as I foresee a lot of financial commitment in the next few months. You girls yang tak kahwin and living with parents and takda commitment with your money....... I'M SO JEALOUS!!!! ;P
• To work hard as I realised money doesn't grow on trees and you have to actually prove yourself proffesionally to achieve the highest reward..... hence the decision about continue studying.
• To learn how to cook like a proffesional. If we are going to be independent without a maid ( Oh kak asiah, i'm gonna miss you ), I need to be able to feed my husband on regular basis with consistent result.
• To be a good multi-tasker and a pro at time management ( Oh kenapa sgt susah )
• To be a better daughter to my parents.
• A better wife

Let just say 2012 will see an adult version of me. Yes, you have to finally grow up Aneesa and be more independent. Baby- steps.

Today is also my sister-in-law's engagement. The theme is black, white and red. Amy did everything herself from the mini dais to the candy buffet and it was marvelous and beautiful. The food was so delicious. Nyum Nyum..

A little sneak-peak before I go;

 Hubby and I with Amy

 The pretty fiancee

 Cupcakes

Flowers at mini dais

Mundane Ranting

December is coming to an end. How time flies. I'm pretty excited to welcome 2012.

Please do not proceed reading this post as this is just an occasional rant of mundane things happening in my life.

Last week, Hubby took me, his sister and mother to Singapore for a short vacation. Just for the sake of going shopping before I started working. We were actually tagging along his uncle and wife so they are the ones who made all the plans. Where we are going and where to eat etc etc. I was so excited as this will be my second short holiday with hubs after Bali. First day was fine and dandy. We entered Singapore on Friday and had a walk around Orchard Road before going to their zoo for a Night Safari. Interesting zoo indeed. Sadly i couldn't really enjoy it as i was getting unwell with blocked nose and flu. Must be their chilly night air. Nevertheless I still feel fine enough because we decided to come back the next day for more shopping trips.

Went back to his uncle's place in Johor and discovered i had high fever. It's not helping that i need to pee every 2 hours. I keep on waking up in the middle of the night when everybody was asleep and the bathroom was ice cold. You know when u had a high fever everything is supercold to you. I was shivering madly throughout the night and because i know my body temp is so hot, i can actually feel the baby moving throughout the night. Poor baby, must be uncomfortable being in an oven. In the morning, after taking my bath and panadol, i feel so much better. I was actually telling myself over and over that i'm fine because i don't want to miss going back to Singapore. A sensible person should just stay and rest and see a doctor. I was not sensible.

Day 2 was the most tiring experience ever. We walked everywhere, taking the bus and MRT. I think somehow i got sick even worse after that because I was so tired. Can you imagine a pregnant woman like me walking from Marina Bay to Esplanade. We WALKED under HOT SUN. Not our choice though. The uncle said it was close by so they insist on walking. I don't wanna make a fuss so i just follow but the whole time, i was close to crying because i was so tired and having a high fever and pinggang nak tercabut and there and then all the shopping mood evaporate so all I did whole day was finding a place to sit. Hubs was trying to help by saying he would carry me. Excuse me, you would expect me to be carried in front of everybody the whole time. Serious malu kot. The family has also decided that next time we would go on a holiday on our own with our own itenary and our choices of transportation as walking is a big NO NO. If it was our choices, we would take a taxi everywhere.

Everybody did shopped to their heart content. And me? Well I was finding a place to sit and i told them " Ok, i wait here until we are ready to go " and they left me for almost an hour. I siap tidur2 lagi. Unsatisfactory experience ever. The same night hubby decided to go back to KL straight as my fever has worsen and we reached KL around 5am. He took me to a clinic in Melawati and the lady doctor was so unfriendly. I told her i wanted a scan as I couldn't feel the baby moved whole day and she made me feel stupid by saying " 5 bulan baby tak gerak lagi and what u feel is not the baby moving" but she did scanned me and i was relieved to see the heartbeat. She gave me some meds but the next day when i showed the meds to my mom, my mom terus tak bagi i makan some of it as they make me drowsy and it's not good for a pregnant woman. I was baffled. Doesn't a doctor supposed to know what's good and bad for a pregnant lady?

My mom who used to work in a hospital is very particular on what type of meds i'm taking so she insisted that i went to the GH for a check up. That night my mom took me and the doctor put on a drip on me as she said my heartrate was quite high. Oh my god how i hate needles. PAINFULLLLL!!!!! But because we went a bit late, the doctor doesn't even wait for the drip to be finished because she wants to go home. By then i was shivering like mad and my temp was about 38-39 degress. And when we went to pick up the meds, the doctor gave me some meds that ARE NOT SUITABLE FOR PREGNANT WOMAN. My mom was asking the pharmacist and they in turn hesitated in giving me the meds and when they try to call the doctor, she has already left. My mom well you could say was quite angry and disappointed. Again, i ask you, shouldn't a doctor knows better???

Early the next morning, as i was sleeping over because my mom told me so ( she wanted to take care of me), she woke me up and told me we are going to see a gynae " jumpa pakar terus, jangan jumpa doktor2 biasa nie dah" and as she was taking Rafael to see a paed because apparently common doctors didn't gave suitable meds for him because after days Rafael still isn't well. Rafael has this red dots all over his body and is quite disgusting to see so this time around my mom told us " from now on we are only going to see paed and gynae. " Yes we have to pay more but at least we are confident with the experience of these doctors.

We went to Naluri near my house. The nurse took my weight and i've gained 2 kgs since last check-up but still i have the feeling that i'm underweight for a pregnant woman. I am merely 47kgs. The doctor then did a scan and this time around i can see the whole body of the baby. Dah cukup sifat and she showed me the baby's spine, legs and hands and even told me the sex of the baby but she's not that sure because the position of the baby makes it hard to see the sex properly. Nevertheless, i truly truly think she's right ;). Can't wait for next month check-up to make sure of the sex.. Wheeeeeeeeee!!!!!!

This time around she gave me a bunch of vitamins and meds. They were so many but rest assure everything is safe for consumption ;). My fever has subside now but unfortunately because of the coughing i lost my voice.

I started working yesterday and the first day at work my collegues asked me to go home because i was coughing non-stop. I went back to see my gynae for MCs and discovered since last week i lost 1 kg. Oh my god, how can i be pregnant and weight 46kgs? Seriously baby why are you so small????? Nobody will believe i'm at my 5th months because i don't look pregnant at all. I can still fit into all my clothes. Well as long as I still feel the baby moves, i hope everything will be okay. 4 more months till I see you baby ;)

Well, didn't I say this is a boring post? Now some pictures.

Hello December

I'm starting work soon. I figured might as well i work for the remainder 5 months while waiting for the baby because i am just bored doing nothing. And yes my work will be demanding, nothing surprises here. So i expect days when i don't sleep chasing deadlines. That's life being an engineering consultant. Come May, i'll be working for 2 years for the same company. How time flies. Then we'll see what will happen to my professional life. ;)

Hubs was telling me to work at first, months before because i keep on getting on his case when he's busy with his sports. The reason he told me is because i have nothing to do so i fixated on him a lot.Haha!! Now that it's official i'll be starting work in 2 weeks time, he's being apprehensive about the whole thing. Worried about me driving, worried about me having no time for him, worried about me getting home late from work and whole other bunch of stuff THEN he said "tak payahlah keje".. Amboi amboi suka hati dia je kan... Other reason that i needed work is because i need to be independent and have my own money to SHOP or else he would scrutinised every purchase i made with HIS money and i hate when he questioned my online shopping habits. That's why i usually don't tell him until the parcels arrived at home or when he saw me with new clothes. Hehe!!! Then the magic question " How much is this??? " and i'm trying to avoid that question. ;P
Recently when he knows I spent RMX amount on clothes, even more than he ever spend on himself ( so not fair, guys don't shop for clothes and i'm getting bigger so i need new ones to fit into) he was all like " ok, gimme your account, i'm controlling it" Eeeeeekkkkkkkk!!!!!!!!!!

Oh boy, i seriously need my own money. And evenmore now that i'm getting rambang mata seeing all this baby clothes that i'm itching to buy but am waiting till I know the sex of the baby. I'm ticking the list in my head * stroller, carseat, breast pump,bed, bunch of clothes,mitten and socks, and lots more* and it's good that i keep track of past B2B blogs as they are now becoming mummies and writing about all these things too.

I.C.A.N.N.O.T.W.A.I.T.T.O.S.E.E.M.Y.B.A.B.Y !!!!!

Oh, we are going for a short getaway next week before i start working. Holiday yayyyyy!!!

Nyna's Engagement

Last 2 weeks on 19th Nov 2011, Nyna my SIL(sis-in-law) got engaged to her better half whom she has been seeing for the past 3 years. She did everything herself from finding the vendors for her dais to candy buffet and other little little details. We ordered the fresh flowers for the hantaran a week before the actual engagement date and the day before she picked them up around 9-ish pm. I was out having dinner with my bestie and reached home around 12am and my MIL and SIL were still doing the hantaran and arranging the fresh flowers as they see fit. I helped around and we only slept around 5-6ish am and this is crazy as the engagement ceremony was scheduled around 2pm and Nyna had to wake up and be ready as early as 8am for last minute preparation. Nevertheless everything went well and the happy couple are finally engaged and now the wedding preps are starting. Oh My God, thinking about my own preps was exhausting enough. Thank God i'm done with all those things.

Anyway, here are some pictures on the day itself. The theme is Black and White.

Hubby and I pun berangan je dekat dais tu. Old-married-couple. ;)

Wedding Dress 081011

On my husband's bertandang reception, i seriously have no idea where he put all the wedding pictures so I can't post the full length pictures on the day itself that I need to search the pictures during my last fitting session which is in July. Yes, my wedding dress for his side is ready by July. So cepat rightttt... During this last fitting session, everything fit perfectly but my dressmaker told me should i ever needed to do another fitting 3 months down the road, i should definitely contact him. And guess what, i brought back the dress, keep it  and never see it or try it again until the wedding day itself. I should have known. He made the dress tight, like seriously i have already contemplating not eating that much so I can fit it for the rest of the day and the day i wore it, it hang on my body. The upper part was a bit roomy. That shows how much weight i lost from July till October. Well it didn't help that my morning sickness was so bad i literally vomit if i even drink water so i did know i wouldn't fit into my dress any longer but i lack the energy to even care at that point.

About the dress, i love it. Simple as it should be with chiffon train underneath.

Some pictures on the day itself stolen from friend's iphone ;)

Anyway, did you know HE sang two songs for me during the reception ;D

Wedding Dress 250911 Reception

My inspiration, Elie Saab Auriga Dress 2011

Mimpikita interpretion of the dress. I don't have the close up of the dress and the veil but the there are so gorgeous. The beadings is on the top part of the dress as well as the sleeves. The veil is quite long. It'll be just like the picture above.



Anyway I love all Elie Saab's wedding dress. Do check them out for inspirations. Another of my favourite;

Elie Saab's Pronovias 2012

Wedding's RSVP

I've been reading Miss X's blog since before i'm married as she has a lot of tips for bride-to-be as she herself is getting married. I actually found all my make-up-artist through her blog as she has generously post all their numbers. Makes my life easier. And sometimes she would wrote something that is so relateable to me and here's one of them. It's about Malaysian and RSVP. I decided to share with you her post because please take not i've been through this and it's not a pleasant experience and that is why NOW i will RSVP to every invitation that i've received. Here it goes.

Saturday, October 22, 2011



MALAYSIANS & RSVP?!

*****Entry ini hanya untuk situasi RSVP utk sit down dinner or strict headcounts (buffet tak termasuk dlm entry ni sbb still flexible)*****


SITUATION 1 : CAKAP BERLAPIK TAK KENA TEMPAT!


Sudah menjadi lumrah rakyat Malaysia when it comes to RSVP:--


Bride: Are you coming? RSVP. need your respond... Prospective guest: InsyaAllah...
it's good to say 'insyaAllah'-- tiada siapa larang. but do you know what insyaAllah really means in RSVP context? maksudnya kamu akan datang, berusaha juga untuk datang. maksud insyaAllah dlm konteks RSVP bukannya-- tengok keadaan. paham?!


so let me all of you out there. jangan jawab gitu lagik. senang je jawapan dia; it's either YES or NO. Tiada istilah MAYBE, buatlah-- kena lempang dengan aku. Why??? it is important to determine head counts. so kalau anda confirm tak boleh datang jangan jawab YES-- sebab katakan di hotel, RM120 per head-- kalau ada 10orang macam korang yg suka hati bedah jawab YES-- tak ke tuan rumah rugi RM1200 dah?! sedangkan kalau korang jawab NO boleh je dia kasi kad dekat org lain... ada paham?? (unless tak boleh datang, notify asap). unless betul2 tak boleh elak--- like myself, in the midst of urus wedding, dengan jadual yang tak tentu hala-- ada wedding yg saya mmg nak sangat pegi tapi kena cancel last minute to fulfill work and family related matters.


SITUATION 2 : UNINVITED GUESTS!


Some people just don't get it! Kalau RSVP, if letak nama " Aminah & pasangan ". Maksudnya DUA orang sahaja ok?? tak kesahlah pasangan anda tu isteri ke, kawan baik ke-- tuan umah tak kisah, asalkan datang seorang atau berdua SAHAJA. jangan pulak " Aminah & pasangan " kau pegi bawak anak 5 orang! tengok tempat la... kalau buffet, mungkin ada kelonggaran sikit, but sitdown dinner tolonglahhhh jangan buat gitu. kau bawak anak 5 orang + 2 orang, 7 orang... katakanlah dekat duchess place RM60++--- anda dah merugikan RM420!!!kalau dah bawak satu proton exora penuh, paling pun kasiklah RM200-- ini tidak, bawah 7pax but kasik RM50! memanglah tuan rumah gembira asalkan anda datang--- but etika tu. paham-paham sendiri ok?


Almost simillar situation-- when it is clearly stated "Aminah & pasangan"... don't you ever ask the bride "Can i bring my 12 year old?" -- Why u shouldn't ask that question? 1) coz it is clearly stated the invitation is for two (unless state otherwise). 2) kids are not allowed? 3) hello cik kak don't leave the bride blinking and feeling guilty la! for god sake she's getting married... takkan kau nak dia jawab "bawaklah..~~~ (dalam nada tak ikhlas?) and kalau kena bridezilla like me you'll get an honest answer "i'm sorry tak boleh... sebab RSVP"... hujungnya kau jugak yang sentap kan? Please read RSVP guidelines, or don't come. :)) *kejam but jujur*


...And another--- if it is clearly stated in the invitation nama anda sahaja, ie: menjemput : AMINAH BINTI AHMAD. maksudnya kau sorang je. toksah pegi jumpa kawan ofis "eh lets go wedding munah together!" or jumpa kawan sekolah " eh! munah nak kahwin next week, dia ada jemput kau tak?" DON'T DO SO! *serious warning* those kind of statement and question is even rude than the bride asking u to RSVP-- which is wayyyy polite! *etiquette*


.. lagi satu, you told the bride "I can't come" but hari majlis you showed up!! menyusahkan je... kalau kata tak datang, toksah datang terus... sbb mungkin your seat tu bride dah bagi kat org lain. ye lah, kita ni org melayu " haaaa mak mertua aku tak jadi turun KL, so besok aku datang wedding kau" huhu bride panic! alamakkk aku nak ltak dia kat meja sapa, aritu kata takleh datang??! pffttttt




SITUATION 3 : THE ABSOLUTE NIGHTMARE TO THE BRIDE!


bride & her family needs you to reply. malangnya, lain suruh buat lain yang korang buat--- ini beberapa kejadian yang menyakitkan hati bride.Jangan jadi golongan ini!:--


1) Jangan cakap dekat bride that you're bringing new boyfriend (yang tak dijemput!)


2) Kalau kawan opis, jangan memandai announce that your kids are coming. (jangan memandai bawak anak kalau kat hall or hotel-- anda mau kanak2 berlari dan panjat pelamin?) -- kalau nak datang sgt, tinggal lah rumah mak mertua atau nursery jap.


3) Hahaha yang ni paling lawak---yang jemput diri sendiri!!! ie: "Eh kau nak kahwin eh? Kau tak ajak aku, siap kau!" (motif?) hahahaha wait for the invitation, if bride n family don't invite just smile and take it positive mungkin lebih ramai yang rapat mereka kena jemput. DO NOT show how thrilled you are about her wedding, sbb mungkin you were never on the guest list pun.


hahahahaha ok tu je buat masa ni :))


ps: in your card, letak ONE mobile number only. orang Malaysia ni i sedar letak number mak, ayah, abang, kakak-- satu keluarga dia letak. macamana orang nak RSVP? kalau dia sms abah awak yang dah 70tahun ala-ala lupa, tak ke dah terlepas RSVP seorang tetamu... betul tak? :) think about it.

You know it's quite disheartening when you see empty chairs at your weddings when your friends had already RSVP yes. Do you know how much does it cost to pay for a wedding? Oh well, there's nothing I can do now.

Wow, it's November

The only reason I rarely update these days is because i don't own a laptop. It's quite hassling to be updating using your phone so i don't bother that much. And because I don't own a laptop the wedding pics are everywhere and i'm quite lazy to track them down and update them here. Maybe not yet. And also because I'm still not entirely fit and healthy. I still vomit every other day although the dizziness has subside but still get carsick every now and then. I did actually vomit my entire meal in my hubby's car and he had to cleaned it. EEEeeeewwwwWWw!!!

Anyway i'm sporting a tiny baby bump but it looks more like i had a large meal that day a.k.a buncitness in all its glory but i don't look pregnant yet. I can't wait to start working but i truly need to find somewhere closer to home as I can't imagine going to ara damansara every single day these days. I'm still thinking about my options but honestly these days all I do is lie down and sleep. I rest a lot and i still feel tired. *Sigh* Over-resting i guess.

My mom is in mecca for a month. And I don't really eat properly when she's not around. All i can stomach is her cooking. Don't get me wrong the maid's cooking is fine but my appetite for her cooking is not there. I can't eat anything so sometimes while waiting for hubby to come home i can only snack on breads or whatever titbits around the house. Not healthy i know but i only eat rice when i'm truly truly hungry and there's nothing to eat and it's either i force myself to eat or i'll be vomitting air,water and acid and make myself sick. And today all i ate was sushi and sandwiches. At least i'm full.

Speaking about my mom, it is so surprising how emotional i get when she's not around. When she is just 2 minutes away, it's fine if i dun see her every single day but at least i know she's nearby but few days before she flies, i actually cried buckets and it's not like silent cries either because it woke hubby up at 2am in the morning. He was like " what happened, what happened?" and i said " nanti mama takda sapa nak masak untuk i, nanti mama takda i rindu. i'm worried" and continue crying for another half an hour. It's ridiculous I know but it makes me realised we really do need to appreciate what's in front of us. I guess it hits my sisters as well as big sis cried buckets too.

Anyway, my baby nephew Ryan turns 5 on 1st Nov. How big he has grown and how loving he is towards Rafael although he translate it by being annoying and keeps on bugging his brother when he's asleep. I miss them both. Starting tomorrow i'll be babysitting him when he comes home from school for a month. Oh boy, me alone with him. I'm quite nervous. Practise practise..

Oh well, till then..

Life as we know it.....next stage.

Two receptions are over and done with. These past months since solemnization up until the past week has been one tiring journey. I can finally take a breather and am glad everything is over. I promised i'll do a review on both weddings but for now i'm not up for it yet. I have more greater exciting news to share.

I think you know what it is. ;)

So yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes I'm Pregnant. I'm still in my first trimester so by right i shouldn't even say anything yet until the fragile stage is over so please do pray for my wellbeing and for the baby as well. I just went for my first scan so that I can determined my due date and see the fetus and heartbeat and whatnot. It was definitely a surreal experience. The fetus or should i call it a baby now? was awake so the Doctor showed me that the legs were moving and i can clearly see the heartbeat, a tiny dot on the screen. It is still really really small around 20+mm in lengths. What shocking was my weight. If before I might be around 50-52kgs (i think), now i'm merely 45kgs.

The first few weeks when i got the news, i was so weak i can barely get up from the bed. I got carsick and well vomitted few times in the car. It was not a pretty sight. All i did all day was sleeping and lying down and I completely stop doing houseworks. I dun go near the kitchen at all especially when the maid or mom-in-law was cooking. I stop cooking for hubs, i hope he understands. I got lightheaded frequently where i see black dots while walking so i had to stop and take a breather. Seriously i was so so so so so miserable, i can't eat anything and i vomitted a lot and when your stomach is empty all u were heaving was air or i think some acid.
Eventhought i didn't do a single thing in the house, i still feel tired most of the time. I can't even carry Rafael around as he is so heavy and i was nauseous all the time all i wanna do is lie down.

I'm waiting anxiously for the first stage to be over so i can be my old self and most importantly for the nausea and vomitting to stop and for me to start eating again. Lapar gila nie!!!!!!!!!!!!!

::Wedding photos::

I am truly bad at updating. My creative juice has run its' course so most posts are random mundane things I did. Oh well..

I just got the photographs from my official photographer. There are more than 1000 of them so I will just upload a few favourites. The style that they captured was intended for vintage feels on each of them but heck I couldn't tell the different from normal ones other than the colours are soft and pastel-like. I love them all.

Hubby & I

Details on my dress



Our fathers

And now I have two more to go through. Pening pening.