Wedding's RSVP

I've been reading Miss X's blog since before i'm married as she has a lot of tips for bride-to-be as she herself is getting married. I actually found all my make-up-artist through her blog as she has generously post all their numbers. Makes my life easier. And sometimes she would wrote something that is so relateable to me and here's one of them. It's about Malaysian and RSVP. I decided to share with you her post because please take not i've been through this and it's not a pleasant experience and that is why NOW i will RSVP to every invitation that i've received. Here it goes.

Saturday, October 22, 2011



MALAYSIANS & RSVP?!

*****Entry ini hanya untuk situasi RSVP utk sit down dinner or strict headcounts (buffet tak termasuk dlm entry ni sbb still flexible)*****


SITUATION 1 : CAKAP BERLAPIK TAK KENA TEMPAT!


Sudah menjadi lumrah rakyat Malaysia when it comes to RSVP:--


Bride: Are you coming? RSVP. need your respond... Prospective guest: InsyaAllah...
it's good to say 'insyaAllah'-- tiada siapa larang. but do you know what insyaAllah really means in RSVP context? maksudnya kamu akan datang, berusaha juga untuk datang. maksud insyaAllah dlm konteks RSVP bukannya-- tengok keadaan. paham?!


so let me all of you out there. jangan jawab gitu lagik. senang je jawapan dia; it's either YES or NO. Tiada istilah MAYBE, buatlah-- kena lempang dengan aku. Why??? it is important to determine head counts. so kalau anda confirm tak boleh datang jangan jawab YES-- sebab katakan di hotel, RM120 per head-- kalau ada 10orang macam korang yg suka hati bedah jawab YES-- tak ke tuan rumah rugi RM1200 dah?! sedangkan kalau korang jawab NO boleh je dia kasi kad dekat org lain... ada paham?? (unless tak boleh datang, notify asap). unless betul2 tak boleh elak--- like myself, in the midst of urus wedding, dengan jadual yang tak tentu hala-- ada wedding yg saya mmg nak sangat pegi tapi kena cancel last minute to fulfill work and family related matters.


SITUATION 2 : UNINVITED GUESTS!


Some people just don't get it! Kalau RSVP, if letak nama " Aminah & pasangan ". Maksudnya DUA orang sahaja ok?? tak kesahlah pasangan anda tu isteri ke, kawan baik ke-- tuan umah tak kisah, asalkan datang seorang atau berdua SAHAJA. jangan pulak " Aminah & pasangan " kau pegi bawak anak 5 orang! tengok tempat la... kalau buffet, mungkin ada kelonggaran sikit, but sitdown dinner tolonglahhhh jangan buat gitu. kau bawak anak 5 orang + 2 orang, 7 orang... katakanlah dekat duchess place RM60++--- anda dah merugikan RM420!!!kalau dah bawak satu proton exora penuh, paling pun kasiklah RM200-- ini tidak, bawah 7pax but kasik RM50! memanglah tuan rumah gembira asalkan anda datang--- but etika tu. paham-paham sendiri ok?


Almost simillar situation-- when it is clearly stated "Aminah & pasangan"... don't you ever ask the bride "Can i bring my 12 year old?" -- Why u shouldn't ask that question? 1) coz it is clearly stated the invitation is for two (unless state otherwise). 2) kids are not allowed? 3) hello cik kak don't leave the bride blinking and feeling guilty la! for god sake she's getting married... takkan kau nak dia jawab "bawaklah..~~~ (dalam nada tak ikhlas?) and kalau kena bridezilla like me you'll get an honest answer "i'm sorry tak boleh... sebab RSVP"... hujungnya kau jugak yang sentap kan? Please read RSVP guidelines, or don't come. :)) *kejam but jujur*


...And another--- if it is clearly stated in the invitation nama anda sahaja, ie: menjemput : AMINAH BINTI AHMAD. maksudnya kau sorang je. toksah pegi jumpa kawan ofis "eh lets go wedding munah together!" or jumpa kawan sekolah " eh! munah nak kahwin next week, dia ada jemput kau tak?" DON'T DO SO! *serious warning* those kind of statement and question is even rude than the bride asking u to RSVP-- which is wayyyy polite! *etiquette*


.. lagi satu, you told the bride "I can't come" but hari majlis you showed up!! menyusahkan je... kalau kata tak datang, toksah datang terus... sbb mungkin your seat tu bride dah bagi kat org lain. ye lah, kita ni org melayu " haaaa mak mertua aku tak jadi turun KL, so besok aku datang wedding kau" huhu bride panic! alamakkk aku nak ltak dia kat meja sapa, aritu kata takleh datang??! pffttttt




SITUATION 3 : THE ABSOLUTE NIGHTMARE TO THE BRIDE!


bride & her family needs you to reply. malangnya, lain suruh buat lain yang korang buat--- ini beberapa kejadian yang menyakitkan hati bride.Jangan jadi golongan ini!:--


1) Jangan cakap dekat bride that you're bringing new boyfriend (yang tak dijemput!)


2) Kalau kawan opis, jangan memandai announce that your kids are coming. (jangan memandai bawak anak kalau kat hall or hotel-- anda mau kanak2 berlari dan panjat pelamin?) -- kalau nak datang sgt, tinggal lah rumah mak mertua atau nursery jap.


3) Hahaha yang ni paling lawak---yang jemput diri sendiri!!! ie: "Eh kau nak kahwin eh? Kau tak ajak aku, siap kau!" (motif?) hahahaha wait for the invitation, if bride n family don't invite just smile and take it positive mungkin lebih ramai yang rapat mereka kena jemput. DO NOT show how thrilled you are about her wedding, sbb mungkin you were never on the guest list pun.


hahahahaha ok tu je buat masa ni :))


ps: in your card, letak ONE mobile number only. orang Malaysia ni i sedar letak number mak, ayah, abang, kakak-- satu keluarga dia letak. macamana orang nak RSVP? kalau dia sms abah awak yang dah 70tahun ala-ala lupa, tak ke dah terlepas RSVP seorang tetamu... betul tak? :) think about it.

You know it's quite disheartening when you see empty chairs at your weddings when your friends had already RSVP yes. Do you know how much does it cost to pay for a wedding? Oh well, there's nothing I can do now.