On cooking

There will come a time when I'm forced to cook. ;p Owh the wonder of having maids. They clean, cook, iron. They are the epitome of wonder women a.k.a your mom SIDEKICK. They did everything to make your life easier. Once a year, they will disappear. The time call Hari Raya. They will want to go home and see their family. The most busiest month when the will be guests at your house and THEY ARE GONE and because your are a decent human being with feelings, you let them have their holiday.

So that is why these days you'll see me in the kitchen everyday or vacumming the room and clean and iron everyday and feed the cats. I do not know how to cook but i've been cooking for the past week just so my hubby have something to eat for iftar and sahur. Sometimes he'll take a pity on me and bought something for us to eat but most of the time i'll try cooking something oh-so-simple-if-you-don't-know-how-to-cook-you-are-plain-lazy.

Be it fried chicken/fish or eggs (blow nails) so sometimes i try chicken soup or -i-dunno-da-name-in-english but we called in ayam pedas. My father in law bought a lot of udang so i attempted udang masak lemak cili padi (the wonder of internet- follows the receipe exactly) and when i came down after solat, habis okay. None left for sahur ;D

If you are wondering, my mother in law is at her hometown. She went back a day before the maid so yeah i guess i'm stuck with feeding hubby myself.

So yeah, now i'm not afraid of the kitchen. I know I can feed myself when no one at home unlike pre-wedding where i depended on my mom 24/7. Mama takda mmg tak makan tahap pemalas macam dewa.

I guess marriage do wonders for you. I'm no cooking maestro. Still a beginner so no dish can be perfect 100% but i'll show some effort, no?

Taking baby steps every single day....

Elegant in its simplicity

My dais was from Kerja Kahwin Design. I found them through one of their customer's blog and that led me to their facebook profile. My orchaids handbouquet was also from them. Most people would probably go for the famous ones but my vendors are mostly the one i found through world wide web and recommendations from other brides. The glory of internet and blogging, no?

Kak Wani used solely fresh flowers. I chose this design from one of her previous work. I told her that i wanted all white for the background and chair and burst of colours for the flowers. She didn't disappoint me at all. When she came to my house with her husband, they brought along their sweet daughter and boy oh boy, she's such a sweetheart and friendly and she's only 3-4 years old i think. She talked a lot and was wide awake even at 12am. They finished putting up my dais by 1 something. My dais was quite simple. We focus more on the flowers instead. Didn't I say Simplicity sometimes is the best?

What can I say about my dais or my "bunga telur" other than my close relatives love them so much. I try not to use the old fashioned design of bunga telur. Instead i bought the ones who looks modern and English. Bought 50 in green and white combination and another 50 in black and white. And they are cheap. Around RM2.30-2.50 per stick i guess.

Days after the wedding, my aunties keep on calling asking about my vendor's number and where did i buy my bunga telur. Apparently my cousin is getting married and they want the same design. LOL. Well unfortunately my vendor was not free on her date while the shop that i bought the bunga telur is not selling anymore of the same design. My mom even distributes half of the fresh flowers from the dais to all my aunties. I, of course was quite flattered that they like my ideas.

My solemnization ceremony was a small affair. Gathering of close relatives and love ones. My advices are, not to fret small stuff and Don't fight with your mom. Your wedding is not all about you. It's about family. I don't even have to worry about all the small details because I know my mom will take care of them. I don't understand why brides need to argue with their mothers when they have clash of opinions. The key is to compromise and meet each other in the middle. You might think the day is your dream day, the one you've been waiting for. Remember, your mom might feel the same way. She couldn't wait to plan your wedding. I think they are more excited of the upcoming reception than me. It's the time to meet their relatives and friends. ;)

So be happy. Don't worry!!

Playing dress UP

When it comes to wedding dresses, i opt for simplicity and comfort. Not too much bling bling or tight corset or bright colours. That is why i'm so in love with Grace Kelly's, Ivanka Trump's and Kate Middleton's wedding dresses. In fact when i sent in my materials to my dressmakers, the design would be somewhat similar to the above three mention. There'll be no traditional attire for me. Both receptions will see me in lace and chiffon dresses. I'll post some inspiration pictures soon.

I just picked up my dress for the groom's reception from Faizul. It was love at first sight. Once he has done the alteration needed from the first fitting and added the beads, i love it even more. It has a flowy skirts and 3-quarter lace for the top bodice. It is a simple dress and I believe less is sometimes MORE. You can't even see the beads from afar but it's ok, i'm not too bothered with that.

As i'm not renting any of my wedding dresses, i'll make sure that the dresses compliment me in every way. I might not wear them again but who doesn't treasure their wedding dresses?? I'm itching to wear them. Can't wait for both of the receptions to end. I feel like i put my life on hold for these receptions. Too many small details to do in between. It's hard when you have the reception dates and the solemnization dates so far apart even if there are just 3 months. When you want to get married, the first thing you have to do is set the date and make sure the venue that you wanted is available. This is what happened to me. I have to wait 3 months for an availability at the venue that I wanted. Since we have already paid the deposit, we decided to just wait.

Finally i have found the make up artist for groom's side and will immediately pay the deposit tomorrow. I've waited long enough. Am still contemplating whether i should wear another set of henna on groom's side. To those who has received the invitations, thank you for attending. Hope to see your happy faces soon.

Xoxo.

On Dresses

I'm so excited. I've been to two fittings each at Mimpikita and Faizul's. What's left on both dresses are the beadings on the bodice and veil. While Mimpikita will take a while to finish it, tentatively my dress will be ready a week before my reception, Faizul told me that he can finish my dress by next week. So double YAYYY since he has already completed my sister's bridesmaid's dress and it's beautiful.

Since i'm wearing white, apart from the materials that i've given Faizul for my dress, he added another layer underneath the dress to make it less transparents. Since i didn't expect the materials to be sheer, i'm quite thankful for that since i'm having that problem with Mimpikita's dress. That shows experience does have its advantages. Not only that Faizul is remarkably cheaper, he does amazing job as well. My dress looks exactly like what he sketches, while Mimpikita end product will vary a bit from the original sketches. Nevertheless, i'm looking forward to see both dresses.

One thing that i learned from all this;
Do Not Judge A Book By It's Cover.

Faizul's shop might be located at a very dodgy place but as long as he's there, i'll be coming to that dodgy place pretty often. He is definitely somebody that I'll be using again. Cheap & Talented. Heavenly combination.

Faizul- 0163368110

As the days go by

It's been more than a month that i'm slipping into a new role of mine. Forty one days to be exact as of today. Our first Ramadhan as husband and wife and of course first terawikh together in our room with hubby as my Imam. I'm still trying to get used with my new role. Am not perfect but there's always room for improvement as hubby is very patient with me. Yes, knowing me for 8 years he tends to know my bad habits but to actually live together, he must be appalled with discovering my hairs all over the room. Well, scratch that!!!! HE IS APPALLED that he's finding all these long hair all over the room. HAhahahahahahahHahahahha!!!!!

Goodness, you see, my husband, he is a neat freak. A VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY ANAL person. His room used to be spotless, well until i came into the picture. Now there are books everywhere. Sometimes I hang my towel outside of the closet to dry it. My make up would be on the table scattered. Well you can feel his frustration. So now he make it a rule that I HAVE to vacum at least minimum once a week or max once every 2 weeks or whenever that he sees fit. He gave me some space to organize my books and ALWAYS put them back at the exact place once i finish reading them and not left them on a bed or bedside table etc. Same goes with tv's remote, aircond's remote, all-kind-of remotes need to be put in one place and one place only. He gave me more space to organice my make up kit. He WILL ALWAYS chastise me if i left my straightening iron or hair dryer still plug eventho i turn them OFF so now i make it a habit to straight away put them back in the closet once i used them. He is always annoyed that i tend to forget to close the closet so now whenever i realised that i forgot again and I can see that he wants to start "membebel", i will quickly apologized while smiling cutely (konon cute la taknak bagi dia BEBEL) and close the door. I think one of these days, we're gonna start killing each other!!!!

Another thing that I realised that I've changed in terms of my obedience towards him. I cannot NOT DO what he asked me to do. Nanti mula la rasa tak sedap hati, rasa bersalah, rasa berdosa, semua lah ada. Sometimes hubby would sakat me where he won't let me go out when I asked his permission. Time tu la mula la rasa sedih bagai, rasa tak puas hati tu ada tapi sedih tu lagi membuak-buak because again like i said i cannot NOT DO what he wants but nevertheless dia menyakat je, of course la i'm free to go out as long as he knows ;)

In 41 days, I still have a lot to learn. I need to grow up and accept my new responsibilities. It's a hard work but MashaAllah, getting married and being with your love ones, beats everything else. It's fun and i'm enjoying every single moment of it.

Hubby and I would like to wish Happy Ramadhan to all Muslim. May our lives be blessed ever more.